Sometimes when I’m out in the afternoon, I listen to Dr Laura on the radio. She is an advice giving, mostly hypocritical talk show host. According to her bio, she lived with her first husband before marrying him, had a kid, divorced, stole someone else’s husband, had a doctorate in physiology but but gives advice for a living. She rails against living with someone before marriage, divorce, stealing husbands, child care & women with children working. Mostly, I think she is a major loon but occasionally she actually talks about stuff I agree with.
Today, a husband called in talking about not the love for his wife waning. And Dr Laura talked to him about the beginning of their relationship and about touching. Even simple touching & how important it is. She talked about preemies in NICU & how they thrive when they are held and talked to. The husband left promising to try to do better.
I understand the touching thing. As a single woman who lives alone and has no family, I get how it feels to not be touched for months at a time. I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about something as simple as someone touching your arm or a simple hug. Sometimes it hurts so much that it’s physical, like a stomach ache or headache. And I know I’m not the only person who knows what it feels like. There are a lot of lonely people in this world.